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Motherhood of a different kind

Oct
09

Part of the feminine genius is that we are called to motherhood. This is motherhood in all it’s different forms, physical, spiritual, emotional ad infinitum. Sometimes that’s hard to see especially when single and waiting and praying to one day be a mother. I came across the quote below recently from The Great Divorce by CS Lewis.

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“And who are all these young men and women on each side?”
“They are her sons and daughters.”
“She must have had a very large family, Sir.”
“Every young man or boy that met her became her son – even if it was only the boy that brought the meat to her back door. Every girl that met her was her daughter.”
“Isn’t that a bit hard on their own parents?”
“No. There are those that steal other people’s children. But her motherhood was of a different kind. Those on whom it fell went back to their natural parents loving them more. Few men looked on her without becoming, in a certain fashion, her lovers. But it was the kind of love that made them not less true, but truer, to their own wives.”

 

After reading this I was so struck! It made me stop. I want to be like this woman. So I started reading The Great Divorce; well listening to the audio book.

I’ve always wanted to be great, not necessarily famous, though that would be nice sometimes, but great at something nonetheless. Great enough at it so as to make a difference in the world we live in and when I pass-on for people to say, she did well and impacted our lives, she changed them for the better. That morphed over time to, I still want to be great but maybe not great here on earth in a tangible to the masses kind of way, but great by having been a mother to all who encounter me, a nurturer, an carer a bringer of life, not one who destroys it or takes it apart, or leaves other desolate and sad. I want to bring happiness, kindness, patience, to bring life and love into the world.

In my own little way I do, when I mother the children around me. There is this Africanism that it takes a village to raise a child, and where possible I try. Todays world makes it no longer so easy, people do not like you in their children’s space or correcting their children, but at Guides and Brownies, when teaching or tutoring, I become a mother for a little while, showing the girls to be honest and true, making them laugh, teaching them a skill, taking them camping, hiking and rock climbing and praying no-one has more than scratches or grazes to show for our adventures. When babysitting or visiting friends with babies, I become a mother for a little while, when distracting them for mom or dad to do something, when tickling them to make them laugh, when feeding and burping. When teaching or tutoring I become a mother for a little while as I practice patience, showing them over and over again for the umpteenth time how to do something just so. In mass I smile and make funny faces at the toddler just about to cry, so that he stops and wonders who is this crazy lady and may even forget why he was about to be upset anyway… doesn’t always work, but when it does yaaay. A motherhood of a different kind, and I love every bit of it.

But with the little people it’s easy, it just happens and comes naturally. It’s with the bigger people I struggle to practice the feminine genius of motherhood. I am not as patient with them, I am not as loving, I am not as open to bringing new life into theirs. They do not leave me to go and love their parents and loved ones more for having encountered me. Case in point I just hung up on a young woman who made me agro because she swore at me. I will see her later today and have no idea what to say to her to diffuse the situation, I want a good outcome but I find it hard to love her as she should be loved. I find it hard to practice this motherhood of a different kind. So Holy Spirit and Jesus give me the right words to say.

At work it’s also very hard to be nurturing, giving, everyone has their own agenda, me included. And suddenly an opportunity has come up for me to teach fulltime, little people. I know it will change me, life will be less complicated in some aspects and more difficult in others, money being one as a teachers salary will be a shadow of what I earn now. But maybe it’s time to step back and allow God to work on my heart and be more patient with older people, to have less stresses of a corporate nature and have simpler stresses, of forming young minds, ha as if that’s simpler but you know what I mean, I hope. Maybe it’s time for me to step up that motherhood of a different kind and know I am changing lives, something I am not always sure of at work. Maybe… if only God’s whispers were louder, you know like shouts. Should I pursue this new opportunity or not?!?!? One day I’ll be sure what He wants me to do. For now I’ll ponder this passage and finish reading The Great Divorce, well listen to it.

waxless xoxoxo

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Christopher West in South Africa

Mar
28

Christopher West is coming to South Africa and it promises to be a fabulous occasion! But you may not know who is. He is a populariser of John Paul II’s Theology of the Body and he has wonderful insights into how we an live out this beautiful message.

I have written a post on TOBSA to get you acquainted to Christopher West and get some freebies from his website. Here is an excerpt.

In the run-up to Christopher West’s visit in September 2017 we will be introducing him and his work; refresher for those who know him and for those who do not, you are in for a treat.

To start you off we will let some his work do the introduction. Why don’t you head on to his website where he has a giveaway currently going on of his new e-book, Theology of the body at the Movies … read more

 

Totus Tuus Women’s Conference 2016

Sep
21

Wow! Amazing weekend at the Totus Tuus Women’s Conference! Read all about it on TOBSA! Excerpt below 🙂

We had an amazing day on the 27th of August, the inaugural Totus Tuus Women’s Conference. Thank you to all who attended, we were just over a hundred in attendance and the reception we had was phenomenal.

As promised (albeit later than I had hoped) here are the cliff notes and links to all the information I gave in my talk. As I mentioned then, most (if not all) of my talk is NOT original, and the content is derived from many sources, men and women I read and listen to for their insights. I hope it inspires you in some way and helps you to find your voice in being a woman of God. A precis (LOL, it was 8 pages long so yeah I’ve shortened it a lot) outline of what I said is below. To those who did not manage to come maybe this will make sure you get a ticket early for next years conference… 🙂 Read more

New TOB South Africa Website

Jun
28

Yoohoo! And we are off!

The new TOB South Africa website has launched and boy am I excited! I will be guest posting there so do go on over, bookmark and subscribe to the feed! Amazing times head!

 

The long URL is www.theologyofthebody.org.za but why have to remember that long one when a short one will work 🙂 Go to tobsa.co.za now!

ciao

D

TOB Tuesday : Choose Life

Aug
12

Yesterday we had another TOB session and as usual there is so much information.

Random notes that I felt I had to write down.

The heart of christianity is Christ, God taking on flesh. Good is an eternal love bomb explosion.
An opportunity for us to allow the light of christ to come two into our heart. We grow up in a pornographic culture, we must fill the hunger of love to good f

od, which means exposure of our hearts.
Our hearts are the deep interior self, but we will never know who we are if we don’t open our heart to God and to others. Here is a battle between good and evil, deep on the heart, st Paul, fight against the self.
We look at physical realities to point us to spiritual realities. CCC the heart is our hidden centre, only the story of God fab fathom the human heart and know it fully, it is the place of decision, deeper than our psychic drive, it is where we choose between life and death, it’s the place of encounter, ‘CCC 2563’ a call to live in relationship. It is chiselled in our bodies, they do not make sense by themselves. We don’t recognize this easily because our hearts are wounded and in need of healing…. For your hardness of heart Moses allowed divorce, but in the beginning it was not so.
A prayerful study of tob in informational and transformational.
Try and achieve harmony between faith reason and the heart each give to the other. The immensly profound bond between love and truth awaits.
St. Augustine says prayer is an excercise of desire. Be not afraid of your desire, for these on the depths we find that which launches us to transcendance. It opens us up to receive the gift of God. The vessel that is our hearts must be made larger and cleansed of the vinegar, so that we can be filled with the infinity of honey, love. It is a painful groaning of the spirit of of the heart.
Man remains a being that is incomprehensible to himself if he does not encounter love.
Paul 6, humane vitae. We need an adequate anthropology on being human.
What does it mean be human?
How do I live my life in a way that will be bring true happiness?
He gave them the law of life as their inheritance…… I have given you blessings and curses, death and life… Choose life!

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More WYD Catechesis : by Bishop O’Malley

Jul
26

I’m really enjoying these catechesis sessions. More notes from the session by Bishop O’Malley 🙂

The new evangelization is being a missionary at home, in a world that is dormant in its religion. Do we still have a sense of Eucharistic amazement?
Poor park, the evangelised person is an evangelist/er.
Jesus gives us a command, a new commandment, to the disciples, those of the household of the faith, love one another, the way that I love you, and this is how they will know that you are my disciples. How does he love it’s, Gore loves us first whilst we are still in sin etc, he wants us to love first, don’t wait till Apple are nice first, forgive first, extend first,
He loves us to the end
He gives a the give of the Eucharist, the strength and the means to live out the command, to be able to make a gift of ourselves.
At ascension, the command is the great commissioning, go and make disciples of all nations teaching them what Jesus taught. And premises is the holy spirit the gift to strengthen us to help us be enable to follow that command. So often we take for granted we forget the giver of the gifts who is our loving God who wants to give us so much more. We are to introduce this anonymous benefit who is our God, who creates us, lives us, forgives us and calls us to share on his life. We are to get people to reconnect with him, our evangelizing job.
We need to have compassion to move us to see those who see the Jesus in distress. We need to have the same sense of urgency for the spiritually naked, starving, sick abandoned as those in Haiti.
We need to be quick to help with spiritual needs as material needs.
The knowledge we have is a responsibility to be used for everyone, we have an obligation to share that knowledge with everyone, else we are like a criminal scientist who keeps the cure to cancer to himself.
Many who were evangelists lost their lives as martyrs. 2000 years later that commissioning is being repeated, we have a great obligation to help people find God on their lives, and hence fulfill Jesus wishes for us. We need to overcome sin and selfishness in our lives, our own conversion. Don’t make just a show of religion, actions speak louder than words. If we are willing to put ourselves out there people will be more willing to listen, we need to cultivate virtue so that we can be credible whiteness of the hostel. Don’t apologize for our faith, fir the gospel, just for the sins committed but our brothers. Apologetics it’s about speaking about our faith in reason, speak about our faith in a convincing way, defend it not be defensive, a laity not arrogant not rash in speech, but men and women who know their religion, know their faith so well they can task about it… how faith and reason stand to each other, cardinal Newman…
Catholic voices _ how to send the faith without raising your voice, to be effective evangelists begins with our personal conversion
When we climb the mountain to help our neighbour to save his soul we save our own, or faith is strengthened when we share it.
We need to outreach to our peers.
Jesus did not come and die so that we could have the warm fuzziness, we have a responsibility to God and to one another, by being part of a community that speaks the same language. We have to work hard to build strong communities of faith, strong parishes. We have to discover God’s plan and will in our life. Avoid the trap of the hookup culture, of cohabiting, when long for a spouse pray to the holy spirit to help yo find the right person, and pray to be right person, marry someone because yo share the same faith, the sane idealism, the same sense of mission, and get married to have children, and yo will be a blessing.
Without God we can do nothing, but without us God will do nothing, st Augustine.
7 percent of committed Catholics make it happen, Matthew c, ongoing faith formation key to apologetics.

More WYD Catechesis : Discipleship

Jul
25

More notes form WYD catechesis 🙂

Submitting yourselves totally as, a disciple, body, mind soul.

Imitate the teacher in everything, scripture and its interpretation, imitation of every detail of life.

Questioning from the master to the disciple. And vice versa. Community of so-called is necessary yeshi_va, in today the church, the Lord, that which brings to the Lord. Our presence means we want to surrender totally. A commitment for life, for eternity, to be with the master to live with him.
A few differences, we don’t choose Jesus, he chooses us, we never take our leave of Jesus and make our own disciples, but for him. Who is Jesus?
First he is not a pale faced role model, Christianity is not a moralisation, trying to imitate Christ in a way that we know we never can. Not just a wise teacher. He is crucified and risen! He went to the very bedrock of human darkened and destitution, he is here in presence and power to command or whole lives, and can give us all we can imagine and more, ha makes us all more than just human zombies. Christianity is not just a religion, it’s an experience of encounter of jc crucified and risen. When you see him it blows your mind. We experience amazement which is the gospel, which is Christianity. We are afraid to really become disciples, to entrust all, we are scared to lose too much. In fact we lose nothing and gain everything. Think again and take the risk, say yes to his call and yo will be treated with all to can scarcely imagine. I’ve yo Becq11ker a disciple you are equipped to become a disciple maker.
Pray
Read the scripture
Read the catechism
Serve the poor
Charismatic leadership is strong as such not only clerical leadership so why be priests.
Ecological conversion jp2

WYD Catechesis by Cardinal Dolan

Jul
24

So I’m gonna be typing on the main points of catechesis by Cardinal Dolan because it all sounds AMAZING!!!! In random fashion no full sentences here goes…

I am work of art, I am loved, I am God’s work of art, I am unique.
Faith – we believe that there is a God
Hope – that God makes and keeps His promises, who is a person, who is intimately involved in my life
God asked Abraham not to fear him but to trust him
Act of hope (Google it)
We live in an age of new atheism, the chic and intelligent find it very in to be an atheist
Hope in talents satisfaction work family wife etc
There will always be an ultimate we can hope in that is good. Thirst fir God is part of poor DNA, we are hard wired to want him, a restlessness that is never satisfied in this world
We are restless oh God and our hearts are restless until they rest in yo, st Augustine
Nothing else can satisfy it
I an the Lord your God and though shalt not have other gods before me, we tend to make other things our idols.
Thomas Merton,
Threats to hope:
Ourselves_ our sins, imperfections, failures
Other people _ don’t put ultimate trust in them because on occasion they still let us down, I have overcome the world…etc
Time _ God tends to take his time, who thinks on terms of thousands of years, we are microwaves and God is a crockpot. God always triumphs even if only in the next life on eternity in heaven. some problems and tragedies are only answered in eternity.

Hope is the muscle of faith.

Immigration of Christ, Thomas akampis
Don charter, soul…
Thomas Erwin 7 storey…
Introduction to divine life

We want God to be our father and us the only child
Jesus and the church is one
The dictatorship of relativism, Pope Benedict, faith in nothing or everything. We need to concentrate on a recovery of the truth, of Jesus Christ. The truth why’ll set yo free, nothing more enobling, liberating etc. Faith and reason are not enemies they are best friends, lumen et fidei, Pope Francis
St Ignatius, God talks to us through our desires and hopes, discernment is an art of trying to get God’s will, ultimate peace. Give it time, ask what will help to get to heaven first, what is best for your salvation, sometimes it’s the harder one, being called to the cross.

Amazing Love…

Jul
16

..that the Lord has. To have brought me thus far… crazy… dias loucos, doido. It’s been an amazing experience not much happening but I feel so much better today it makes a world of difference, goodbye diarrhea and fever! Not even sure what caused it but it is over and the rest of this trip is underway!

From Puno to Cusco

Jul
09

So we are underway again. Day nine of this interesting journey in Perupuno photo and we are now on our way from Puno to Cusco. My back aches a little, most people think I can barely manage with luggage lol. We have a 6 hour bus trip ahead of us 🙁 I’m done with long travels…and yet we have a lot of that to go. I’m going to be retro-journaling as I was so lazy so far.